Before children come along we have a lot of time on our hands. I remember having so much time that I probably wasted a lot of it. I mean I could eat, sleep, exercise and socialise whenever I wanted and without guilt. Oh how times change. Now just to have a few hours with my girlfriends takes a whole lot of planning, prepping and stressing. But you know what, it is SO worth it.
Although it feels like its a lot of work, those few hours out for lunch or drinks or even just to myself to recharge are so important. I come back feeling refreshed, feeling energised and feeling like I can be a better mum all because I had a few hours to myself doing something I enjoy.
Taking the time to pamper ourselves, getting our hair cut, our nails done or even an indulgent massage. By taking that small space of time and putting ourselves first actually benefits our family and our little ones. The saying a happy mum = a happy family couldn’t be more fitting and is oh so true.
As busy mums its totally understandable that we forget about ourselves as we are too busy concentrating on our children, their needs and our partners needs. BUT. What about our needs?
We shouldn’t put our needs to the bottom of the pile. It’s all about balance and to be honest I’m still figuring that out. What I do know is that by making time for me I’m much more of a productive person. I’m more present with my family and feel a lot more in control.
There’s also the guilt… We may make that time for ourselves but then we feel guilty. Why is that? Mother Guilt is SO real and I haven’t met a mum who hasn’t experienced it. Its not just even about leaving our children its about everything. The food we give them, leaving them at daycare, whether they are stimulated enough, too much iPad time, too much TV, Its a daily battle.
All we want as parents is for our little ones to feel loved, safe and secure and most importantly be healthy. We put so much time and energy into our kids that it’s so easy to forget about our needs.
So mama’s take the time for you. Whatever you enjoy, arrange some time to do what you love. Recharge your mum batteries and see the benefits to your mindset.
And remember a happy mum really does equal and a happy family.