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Tips to adapting to life with a newborn and a toddler

Tips to adapting to life with a newborn and a toddler

When you find out you’re expecting baby number 2 emotions can range from ‘oh yayy another little bundle of joy to love’ to ‘omg another baby, how will i cope with 2!’ pretty quickly. After the initial excitement of finding out you’re pregnant again the feelings of anxiety can move in and you may start to remember the sleepless nights, the constant feeding and the crazy amount of nappies you go through each day. But this time you have a toddler to contend with too.

First time around you really are in this pregnancy baby bubble. You don’t really know whats ahead of you (as much as people want to tell you) but you’re excited for the road ahead. Second time around, you’re a seasoned pro. You’ve dealt with the birth, feeding, teething, crawling and all the stages in between. You love your little toddler, they are your world and you love seeing them learn and marvel at the simplest of things. You have that confidence as you know you’ve done it once before but this time you have to deal another and adjust to life as a parent of 2!

One thing that you can’t quite imagine is how you could possibly love another as much as you love your firstborn? You worry how your toddler will take to the new baby and whether or not they fully understand the word ‘gentle’ How you are going to juggle all of lifes needs with another in tow. You may feel like you just got into a good routine and now it’s all about to change. I felt all of this and more.

Now that Gracie has hit 5 months old i honestly can’t imagine life without her. The newborn days have come and gone in the blink of an eye. All those worries i felt initially and throughout the pregnancy all melted away as soon as i saw both my girls together. The love you feel really does just double and theres nothing quite like seeing siblings connect. Rosie has really took on the big sister role and is besotted with Gracie. There’s obviously times that are harder than others, especially when both of them want my attention but mostly when i look at them i just feel so much love and wonder why i ever worried about how Rosie would handle it.

I do however think we prepared her pretty well so here are some tips that really helped us adapt to life with a newborn and a toddler:

  • Talk to your toddler about the baby BEFORE they arrive. Make them feel included in the journey, get them to feel your growing bump and explain to them that they are going to be getting a sibling.
  • Get some books that talk about a new baby in the family and big brother/sister books so they can start to understand a little more about what that means.
  • Give you toddler a baby doll to play with if they don’t already have one. Start using terms such ‘softly, gently’ etc so this way they’ll be familiar when baby does arrive.
  • Get your toddler a present from the baby. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive. Just something to ease the transition. We bought Rosie this beautiful soft fairy doll and she opened it in the hospital.
  • Let them help! Give them jobs such as getting the nappy or baby wipes, getting a rattle, choosing an outfit for baby. Rosie is obsessed with helping during change time and bath time.
  • Make sure you dedicate some one on one time with just your toddler. They’ll love having that time with just you and your full attention. I take Rosie for a weekly park play and we get ice cream together.

These tips really worked for our family and have made our transition to two very smooth. We’ve dealt with minimal jealousy from Rosie and she loves sharing her toys with Gracie (for now anyway!)

Here are some of my cherished photos of that sisterly love between Rosie and Gracie.

I’d love to hear any tips you may have that I’ve not included above that have worked for you so please let me know.

There’s always going to be worries that we as parents face when expecting another bub but just know that our toddlers are so adaptable and in short you’re giving them the most magical gift. The gift of a sibling and a best friend for life.

Now that really is special.

Danielle Lauren

xoxo

Here we go again…ROUND TWO

Here we go again…ROUND TWO

So if you have been following our journey on Instagram then you will know that we are expecting our second baby at the end of this year.

Rosie will be very nearly 2 and to say i’ll have my hands full is an understatement. Lots of parents do it, some a closer age gap and others choose a bigger age gap. I really don’t think there is the perfect time so we decided earlier this year to embark on the next adventure and officially start “trying” (Basically means just have more sex right?)

It took us a good few months with Rosie and we had (naively) assumed that it would be the same this time. WRONG. Yup, it happened the first month. I honestly still cant believe it happened that quickly. My heart goes out to all you ladies travelling along the trying to conceive journey. It can be a long road for many so I’m very thankful that it was able to happen so quickly for us despite my history.

 After the initial excitement of seeing that positive test I couldn’t help but feel a mix of emotions. Obviously I was incredibly happy, after all it was what we wanted BUT some thoughts were flying around my head that were totally different the second time.

Like…..will I ever sleep again? We finallllllly have Rosie in such a good routine and now I’m about to add a newborn to the mix…Oh great sure, what a good idea that is.

And what about all the stuff we have to buy? Ahhhh hang on – we have bags loads of Rosie’s clothes that baby can wear and if its a boy then he can totally wear pink too right?

First time round we really had no idea what we were getting ourselves in for. Well we kind of did but you don’t REALLY know until you become a parent yourself am i right? Its a wild ride with many ups and downs and just as you think you have got it nailed they change, their needs change and you are back to square one. I certainly feel a lot more prepared but I also have the dread too. Is that normal? The birth, the crazy post natal emotions, sleepless nights and trying to work out just what those cries mean. It is pretty overwhelming but what I do know is that despite all of that – we have totally got this. Sometimes you have just got to enjoy the ride and take each day as it comes so that is what we plan to do.

All you second,third, fourth (and so on) time mamas, I would love to hear your advice and recommendations on the transition into growing your family. How did your first born handle it? What were the challenges? And of course the benefits too! Please drop me a comment here or DM on Instagram. I would LOVE all of your expertise.

So yes, here we go again. Ready or not

Peace out ladies

Danielle Lauren

xoxo